As summer comes to a close and cool fall weather approaches, I’m excited for cozy outfits. Fashion scarves, tights, high-heeled boots and sweaters. I love summer and sundresses, but fall is so pretty and cozy. Comparing the two seasons' clothing choices made me think about the beauty of each one.
Life as a Young Wife.
Navigating life and faith as a young wife with my hubby and dog by my side.
Saturday, 26 September 2026
There is Beauty in Every Season.
Sunday, 20 September 2026
Overcoming Comparison Part 2.
Day three. Did God really say?
Comparison takes our eyes off what God has given us and turns our eyes onto what was never meant for us. When we start looking at someone else's life, we forget what God is doing in our life. Comparison shows the final work in someone else's life while looking at the incomplete work in your life. It's a joy and peace stealer, which shouldn't be a surprise because that's what the enemy's all about. John 10:10 (NKJV: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”
Day four. The Carrier of the Blessing
Genesis 13:9-11. NJKV. 9 Is not the whole land before you? Please separate from me. If you take the left, then I will go to the right; or, if you go to the right, then I will go to the left.” 10 And Lot lifted his eyes and saw all the plain of Jordan, that it was well watered everywhere (before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah) like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt as you go toward Zoar. 11 Then Lot chose for himself all the plain of Jordan, and Lot journeyed east. And they separated from each other.
Ephesians 2:10 NKJV. “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”
When you know God's hand is on your life, there is no need for comparison. You were not built to do what the other guy can do. You were built to do what God has designed you to do.
Proverbs 3:5 - 6 NKJV. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall [a]direct your paths.”
Am I in the will of God? A simple, and yet profound and important question. As the author says, and I agree, it cuts through the noise of comparison. Today is the final devotional. Beautifully closes out this Bible study. The author suggests that your current circumstances may not look like you had hoped, but someday they might. My circumstances don't look exactly like I would like them to right now either. But that's okay because I know God's got it. They also encouraged us readers to ask ourselves whether we are obeying God right now. Did you do the last thing He told you to do? And are you doing what He's currently telling you to do? Then you were on the right track. I found this to be very encouraging as I thought about my life. Because even though I wish a few things were different, I'm in the Father's will. God has been saying no to a dream of mine. I don't believe it's a hard no. I believe it's a not yet. The other day I prayed about it again, and he said no again. But then I asked why, and he explained. Not that he needs to explain it. Of course He's God. He is the creator of the heavens and the earth. He doesn’t owe us any explanation. But he did, and it gave me peace and hope because I believe that one day it will be a yes.
God has used this study to break off the chains of comparison, and I'm so thankful for it. That being said, the enemy did sneak in today and get me to start comparing myself again to somebody. But I'm not going to let myself be defeated by it. I'm going to pray and ask the Lord what I should do with that, whether I should be using that person as motivation or if I should walk away from it and put it at the foot of the cross.
But it's okay if you get tripped up. That's where his grace and mercy come in. And now it's time to enjoy the weekend and not worry about the rest of the world. God bless, friend.
Overcoming Comparison Part 1.
Two of the things I struggle with the most in my life are my self-worth/value and comparison. The rest of the things I struggle with all stem from those two. Right now I'm working on a Bible study on comparison. The biggest things I compare myself against with other is my fitness level, diet and how much they can do all at once. Ex. Work full-time, run a house, full-time student, raise kids, etc. How many things can they juggle well in any given season? And then there's me. I struggle with working full-time, running a home, spending time with my family and enjoying my hobbies.
'A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones. ' Proverbs 14:30 NKJV
The author asked how old you were when you first started comparing yourself to others. As I thought back, I realized that like many of us, I have been comparing myself to others my whole life. Not always in a bad light mind you, but always comparing myself to others. But it didn't start bothering me until I was in my teen years. The verse used for today's devo talks about being at peace with yourself. It was both convicting and encouraging, and like every other word found in Scripture, correct. If I had been at peace with myself that morning and many other times, I would not have lost out on enjoying any of my day. I'm also working on practicing gratitude. I’m trying to thank God more often for everything and working on changing my mindset/perspective.
Day 2. You don't know their fertilizer.
"But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each of you shall bear his own load. Galatians 6:4-5 NKJV
The author reminds us of the downfall and the trap that social media can be. We see people's nice posts. Their highlight reel, and unconsciously start comparing our selves to them. Now, it would be one thing if we were comparing their highlight reel to our highlight reel, but we aren't. We are comparing their spotless kitchen to the pile of dishes in our sink. The problem with this is that we are comparing apples to oranges. Two different things. We also don't know the work that went into getting that post. That vacation picture that you saw, is it on credit or paid in full? Or did the couple have a fight 30 min before the picture was taken? Hopefully not. Point is, though, we don't know what work they had to put in order to get that picture. Personally, I have become very intentional about what I post on social media. Am I posting to brag about my latest sewing project or to help encourage someone along their journey? Admittedly, a little of both sometimes.
The author also reminds us of the work that likely went into that post. Do you want to put in all the work that person put into getting that post? Maybe you do, in which case, use them as motivation to help you get where you want to go. But, more likely, you don't. Another good question. Did that person get there on their own strength, or did God bless them? As the author put it, 'You could be in your own lane, faithfully obeying, comparing yourself to someone who is not even in the will of God. That is a dangerous metric to live by." This statement hit home in all the right places. They also worded it this way: 'Comparison is so dangerous, you could end up comparing where God has you to where the devil has them.' Also helpful.
I am part way through this study, and already God has healed so much of my heart. I pray that it heals your heart before you finish reading it too.
There are a few other reflection questions for day two.
1. Think about someone you've recently compared yourself to. What do you actually know about their story? The two people I was comparing myself to that morning. I know some of their story, but much of it I do not. I do know that they have both seen hard times, though. I can also imagine the one person encouraging me not to compare myself to them.
2. Are you willing to go through the process that it took them to obtain the things that they have that you want? I don’t have the time or energy to obtain the things that they have. One of them is a major athlete. Yes, I would like to be fitter and work out more, but I have no desire to be at their level. The other one has a very high level of education. I would love to finish my bachelor’s degree, but I don’t care to go further than that. As I do these reflection questions myself, I realize just how silly it is to compare myself to these people. Hubby and I were discussing my struggles with comparison the other day, and he was reminding me that part, if not the whole root cause of it, is that I don’t know who I am or like who I am. He has a point. Something else I’m working on.
3. Are they in God's will? Are you comparing yourself to someone else's detour? I do not know where these two people stand with the Lord. I know that one of them was raised to know the Lord, but I do not know where they stand now, and I don’t know the other person’s faith background. I do know that I am in the will of God though.
Saturday, 19 September 2026
I Need God's Grace and Mercy Every Day.
Two weeks ago we were headed to my brother's wedding. Along the way, I had to apologize to hubby for something. I don't remember what for, and it doesn't matter. Anyways, I apologized, and he forgave me. I sat quietly for a few minutes and thought about God's grace and mercy and how I really do need them every day. The Holy Spirit then reminded me that's why His grace and mercy are new every morning. In my self righteousness, I thought that I didn't need His grace and mercy everyday. That I needed it most days. A few days a week, but not every day. In my self righteousness I thought that if you needed it everyday then you were definitely struggling with sin of some sort. I tried to tell myself that I didn't need it everyday, that I could handle life on my own most of the time or at least some of the time. I see now that I was wrong.
Holy Spirit then reminded me that this is why His grace and mercies are new every morning. Because He knows that when we are honest with ourselves and with Him, we do in fact need it every day. It was a beautiful moment of conviction and correction.
Sunday, 30 August 2026
Finding Balance In Our Closet.
Track pants have their place too. Hear me out, ladies. I am all for getting dressed up and being out together for myself and for hubby. It also doesn't hurt that 90% of my wardrobe is 'Sunday Best,' and I haven't worn pants publicly in 4 years. I will also be one of the first people to encourage you to get dressed up for your hubby, but I'm also coming to the conclusion that there is a happy medium as well. Track pants/ lounge wear have their place.
What I mean by all this is that there have been plenty of times when I deliberately put on an outfit for hubby's attention, and times when I wear it just for myself. There are also times when we are relaxing, and I'm in my PJs. There have been times when we are sitting down to watch a movie, and I'm in a nice dress or skirt, and hubby will suggest that I put on pj's so that I can be more comfortable. I lovingly tell him that I am comfy. And we move on. There are also times when we sit down for a movie, and I automatically put on pj's.
One evening a few weeks ago, I was washing off my makeup before winding down for a movie on a Saturday night. I felt bad because I was taking off my makeup and that he couldn't enjoy it anymore. He reminded me that he had been enjoying it all day and, of course, that I don't need makeup to be beautiful.
He also regularly tells me that I look sexy in my PJs. I usually give him the 'you have two heads' look. His explanation is that by wearing my PJs, and so on, around him, it says that I am comfortable around him. I would hope after 11 years of marriage I would be comfortable around him. Either way, it's cute and sweet. He isn’t wrong, though; how you dress says a lot about yourself, and your relationship to those around you, whether you are at home or out in public.
By no means am I saying to change into your PJs the second you get home. I'm just saying we don't have to be put together all the time either. I’ve also heard it suggested that you should be put together at all times at home, and even if you are cooking and cleaning that day that you can still put on a “house” dress that may be older, that you no longer wish to wear publicly, but is still comfortable and you can move about freely while you do your tasks. This agument also has it’s place, but I think we need more of a balanced approach.
I have heard it suggested that some women dress up for work and then once they are home, change into sweats. Meaning that they give the world outside of their home their best but then aren't putting in any effort into how they look at home. Again, I think it's more about balance and not shaming anyone. Maybe some days you are more put together than other days. I work in a factory and put little effort into my appearance for work. Yes, I do wear skirts to work, but they are no longer a part of my “Sunday Best” wardrobe. They are stained from paint and other things at work. Some evenings I put myself together more than others. Then on the weekends I am 'Sunday Best' for most of the weekend. Recently, hubby has joined Blessing and me for our daily walk; we head out the door a few minutes after I get home. I don’t bother getting changed because I am sweaty and know that I will sweat on the walk as well, so I shower after our walk. One day last week I didn’t sweat very much, so I told hubby I would take a quick “sponge” bath and get a little cleaned up and then change into a nicer outfit for our walk. I knew it wasn’t really a hot day, so I figured the chances of needing another shower after the walk were slimmer. So I quickly got cleaned up, changed into a nicer skirt outfit, came to the living room, and jokingly, with a big smile on my face, said to hubby, “Okay, I’m pretty now.” he smiled and said to me, “You are always pretty.” I know that I am pretty without a nice outfit on, but the outfit did make me feel better.
So, let's find the happy medium between Sunday Best and never getting out of your sweats. I also know that getting dressed up and putting yourself together looks different for every woman. Not every woman is the pink skirt girly girl that I am. God created us all different on purpose. For some, it is a nice pair of jeans and a pretty top, and that is also beautiful. And some women don’t wear makeup at all or wear minimal makeup, and again, that too is beautiful.
Sunday, 23 August 2026
Unexpected Lessons and Blessing from a Bike Accident.
On June 30th, I received a phone call that no wife wants to receive. It was a hot day. I was biking home from work. I had just turned onto my street and was pulling my phone out of my pocket to text a friend and co-worker that I had enjoyed my ride home that day. She had wondered if it was too hot for me to ride that day and asked if I wanted a ride. I politely declined. As I pulled out my phone and started to text her, my phone started ringing instead. I looked at the caller ID and saw that work was calling me. I answer. My poor boss got the privilege of breaking the news to me that my husband had been in a bike accident and was being taken to Chatham Hospital via ambulance. She said there was a witness and would text me the number so I could call them and get more details. Alrighty then, not exactly how I expected my afternoon to go.
Sunday, 16 August 2026
Look To God, Not Your Circumstances.
I finished writing my last post about the Holy Spirit and thought, 'Ah, I can put my feet up.' Holy Spirit quickly told me that I needed to be fed (Spiritually) because hubby is going through a rough time and needs me." I thought, 'Okay,' so I opened up Spotify and found one of my favourite podcasts and looked for a title that spoke to me. I quickly found this one and started listening. “Before God Changes Your Situation, He Does This First”. It touched my spirit and soul and fed me so beautifully that I just had to share it with you. I spent much of the time listening to it, holding back tears. Tears of joy and relief.
We have all had hard seasons. We may be worn down, discouraged, whatever verb you like. You may find yourself praying and asking whether this hard season, or valley, as the speaker refers to it, will ever end. Will things ever change? Will I ever change?
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