Pride and Self-Esteem Part 2.

 Day 4

1 Peter 5:6 NKJV. Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time

Philippians 2:1-30 NKJV. “Therefore if there is any ^[a^]consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, ² fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. ³ Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. ⁴ Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

The Humbled and Exalted Christ

⁵ Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, ⁶ who, being in the form of God, did not consider it ^[b^]robbery to be equal with God, ⁷ but ^[c^]made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. ⁸ And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. ⁹ Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, ¹⁰ that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, ¹¹ and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Light Bearers

¹² Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; ¹³ for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.

¹⁴ Do all things without ^[d^]complaining and disputing,^[e^{] 15} that you may become blameless and ^[f^]harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, ¹⁶ holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.

¹⁷ Yes, and if I am being poured out as a drink offering on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all. ¹⁸ For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.

Timothy Commended

¹⁹ But I trust in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you shortly, that I also may be encouraged when I know your ^[g^]state. ²⁰ For I have no one like-minded, who will sincerely care for your state. ²¹ For all seek their own, not the things which are of Christ Jesus. ²² But you know his proven character, that as a son with his father he served with me in the gospel. ²³ Therefore I hope to send him at once, as soon as I see how it goes with me. ²⁴ But I trust in the Lord that I myself shall also come shortly.

Epaphroditus Praised

²⁵ Yet I considered it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker, and fellow soldier, but your messenger and the one who ministered to my need; ²⁶ since he was longing for you all, and was distressed because you had heard that he was sick. ²⁷ For indeed he was sick almost unto death; but God had mercy on him, and not only on him but on me also, lest I should have sorrow upon sorrow. ²⁸ Therefore I sent him the more eagerly, that when you see him again you may rejoice, and I may be less sorrowful. ²⁹ Receive him therefore in the Lord with all gladness, and hold such men in esteem; ³⁰ because for the work of Christ he came close to death, ^[h^]not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.”

I have never understood what it means to boast in Christ. The Bible says not to boast in ourselves, but in Christ. Well, while I was doing laundry yesterday, Holy Spirit revealed to me what He meant. A) it means don't brag about what you can do. Let someone else brag about that. But it also means we are to brag about what God has done. Holy Spirit reminded me that it's the same as bragging about what hubby has accomplished. And being the humble man he is, he is never going to say that he did it on his own. But to brag on God means to say, 'Look what God did for me.' to some, this might sound obvious, but for me, it hadn't quite clocked in yet. Now it has.

Pride doesn't just show up in big attitudes. It shows up in people who think they know everything. It shows in how they walk and the energy they bring when they walk into a room. When you want to be the first in line for something or need to be the first person to buy something.

In your day-to-day life- how can you show humility? By admitting when you are wrong, listening, being teachable.

We can also deal with pride by asking Holy Spirit for help and by laying it down at the foot of the cross.

Day5
Matt 20:28 NKJV. The son of man came to serve, not to be served.
One of the truest ways to see humility is to see someone quietly serving. Serving at church, serving at work or at home.  No one who walks in pride is truly willing to serve.
Are you serving when no one is watching? I think so.

Day 6
2 Cor 5:17 NKJV. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.
New creation
1 Peter 5:6 NKJV. ⁶ Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,

Humble yourself before God and He will lift you up.
Christian self-esteem. We can't allow our self-esteem to be rooted in our own actions. Otherwise, we can become puffed up. On the flip side, if we are having a bad day and our self-esteem is rooted in ourselves, it can be detrimental. Because we will start to feel bad that we can't do something. I have fallen into that trap many times. I will start thinking that I am not worth it. Hubby will try to remind me of what Christ did for me and what He says about me, but at that point I'm too far gone, so to speak, and those Biblical truths no longer matter, so to speak. I will likely spend a few hours feeling bad about myself. It often happened on Sunday afternoons.
Add in my Saturday morning struggle with comparison along with expectations vs reality for all I can/want to accomplish on a Saturday morning, and you have the making of a great weekend (so much sarcasm in that sentence). Praise God, He has done a lot of work in me, and now weekends are no longer getting the better of me.

If we build our self-esteem on Christ and what He has done for us. We need to continue surrendering to Him and spend more time with Him. Get to know Him and your self as an extension of that.

Day 7
2 Corinthians 3:18 NKJV. “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as ^[a^]by the Spirit of the Lord.”

Romans 12:2 NKJV. “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

Renew your mind. Something I have been asking God to do for me recently. I have allowed the bad habit of swearing to creep in, and I have been asking God to help renew my mind.

John 1:12 NKJV.  “But as many as received Him, to them He gave the ^[a^]right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name:”

Avoid comparison.

When we start comparing ourselves to others, we take our eyes off Jesus.  It also leads us to feel bad because that person you are comparing yourself to either has done more or better than you on a particular thing.  Or we do it the other way, and think more highly of ourselves. When we look to Jesus, we are changed from glory to glory. But when we compare ourselves to others, we either feel puffed up or feel bad about ourselves.

At the end of the day, we need to rewire our brains via the Word of God and the help of Holy Spirit to teach us to view our self-esteem through His eyes and not the world’s eyes. Plus, God never changes, and therefore what we wants from us and for us never changes. The world wants something new and different from us each day.

I pray this challenges, blesses and encourages you today, friend.

God Bless

~Hannah

Pride and Self-Esteem Part 1

 2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

Galatians 2:20 NKJV. I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.

John 15:5 NKJV. “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.

    We can't bear fruit apart from Him. We also tend to confuse humility with pride and Self-esteem with vanity. Pride and humility can also look like each other. Having self-esteem is about knowing who Chris is and what He has done in you. Self-esteem that is rooted in what you have done leads to pride. Self-esteem that is based on what Christ has done for us will lead us to true humility. The author of this devotional suggested, and I agree with him, that we tend to act out our perceived identity rather than our true identity. Do you know who you are according to what Christ has done for you or just by what you have done? When you think about who you are or when someone asks you about yourself, what is the first thing that comes to mind? The fact that Christ died for you or something that you are good at or enjoy doing? Personally, one of the first things that comes to mind for me is that I’m a hard worker.

    Father God, I'm a little lost on this one. I want to see myself through your eyes, but I don't fully understand what that looks like or how to do it. Please help me, Lord.

    There is also a difference between our perceived identity and our true identity. Basically, the difference between who you think you are and who you really are. Our perceived identity is what we have done, rather than our true identity, what Christ has done in us and what Jesus did for us on the cross.

    I think that if we say that Jesus died on the cross for us with our chest puffed up, then that is pride, but if we say it gently and as a matter of fact, and with a grateful heart, then we are saying it with humility.

Father, please use this study to transform my heart and mind.

Day 2

Philippians 2:5-8 NKJV. ⁵ Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, ⁶ who, being in the form of God, did not consider it ^[a^]robbery to be equal with God, ⁷ but ^[b^]made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. ⁸ And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.

Proverbs 16:18 NKJV. Pride goes before destruction,

And a haughty spirit before ^[a^]a fall

John 15:5 NKJV “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.

Father, continue to build in me a clean heart and a servant’s heart. Amen.

    Pride hardens our hearts and distances us from God. Humility is revealed in love, service and how we see ourselves through Christ. Humility is also knowing who we are but not boasting about it. It's also dangerous to walk in our own self-esteem. Because we will look at the list of things we have done on our own and think that we are impressive, which might be very impressive, but we may not be very approachable because we are puffed up and arrogant. That being said, not everyone who has a long list of accomplishments is puffed up and prideful. They may be a very quiet person when it comes to their accomplishments. They may simply be a quieter person or because their self-esteem is rooted in Christ and therefore don’t feel the need to talk about the list.

    Is my self-confidence rooted in what I have done in my life or in what Christ has done in me?

At the beginning of this study, I would say that it was about 60/40. 60% what I had done and 40% what Christ has done. It was also rooted in fear and self-defence. Now it's working in moving closer to just what God has done in me. I have also found myself becoming a quieter person as a whole and telling people less and less about the things in my life. I don’t feel the need or desire to share as much with as many people. I’m finding it to be rather peaceful.

    Father God, I struggle with confidence. I am a very defensive person and am regularly on edge. I feel the need to regularly defend myself and puff myself up a little. Help me not to be afraid, Father. Help me to remember who I am in you and not worry about the rest of the world. Continue to help me walk in your will and not compare myself to others.

Since writing out this prayer and several others through this study in my journal a few weeks ago, He has answered them. Praise the Lord.

Day 3

Throughout the Gospels, we see Jesus giving others value.

Luke 19:1-10 NKJV. Then Jesus entered and passed through Jericho. ² Now behold, there was a man named Zacchaeus who was a chief tax collector, and he was rich. ³ And he sought to see who Jesus was, but could not because of the crowd, for he was of short stature. ⁴ So he ran ahead and climbed up into a sycamore tree to see Him, for He was going to pass that way. ⁵ And when Jesus came to the place, He looked up ^[a^]and saw him, and said to him, “Zacchaeus, ^[b^]make haste and come down, for today I must stay at your house.” ⁶ So he ^[c^]made haste and came down, and received Him joyfully. ⁷ But when they saw it, they all ^[d^]complained, saying, “He has gone to be a guest with a man who is a sinner.” ⁸ Then Zacchaeus stood and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord, I give half of my goods to the poor; and if I have taken anything from anyone by false accusation, I restore fourfold.” ⁹ And Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because he also is a son of Abraham; ¹⁰ for the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost.”

John 8:1-11 NKJV. But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. ² Now ^[a^]early in the morning He came again into the temple, and all the people came to Him; and He sat down and taught them. ³ Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, ⁴ they said to Him, “Teacher, ^[b^]this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. ⁵ Now ^[c^]Moses, in the law, commanded us ^[d^]that such should be stoned. But what do You ^[e^]say?” ⁶ This they said, testing Him, that they might have something of which to accuse Him. But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, ^[f^]as though He did not hear. ⁷ So when they continued asking Him, He ^[g^]raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” ⁸ And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. ⁹ Then those who heard it, being^[h^] convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. ¹⁰ When Jesus had raised Himself up ^[i^]and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers ^[j^]of yours? Has no one condemned you?” ¹¹ She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go ^[k^]and sin no more.”

    When your self-esteem is rooted in achievements, you place pressure on yourself and likely start comparing yourself to others. It will also cause us to be judgemental. I think that when our self-esteem is rooted in Christ and what He has done for us, it starts to quiet our spirits, and we no longer feel the need to be defensive or show off our list of accomplishments. Pride lifts us above others; humility allows us to love like Jesus.

I pray this blesses, encourages and challenges you today, friend.

God Bless

~Hannah

There is Beauty in Every Season.

    As summer comes to a close and cool fall weather approaches, I’m excited for cozy outfits. Fashion scarves, tights, high-heeled boots and sweaters. I love summer and sundresses, but fall is so pretty and cozy. Comparing the two seasons' clothing choices made me think about the beauty of each one.

    Springtime is for renewal and the beginning of life. The flowers are blooming, and the weather starts warming. You get to watch the snow melt and jump in mud puddles. Nature comes alive, and all the animals who were hibernating come out to enjoy the warm weather. It's also a great time to buy your dog a rain/shush suit. Seriously. Full coverage, minus her crotch, tail and feet. She also has shoes. No more wet dog for this dog mama. Plus, she looks so cute.

    

    Then comes summer. Sundresses, warm weather for paddle boarding, swimming, biking, hiking, camping (not my cup of tea personally, but still), campfires. Basically all the outdoor activities that require warm weather. We can relax on the beach and work on our sun tans. You can enjoy picnics and food trucks. Driving with the windows down and the wind in your hair. Personally, I don't want the wind in my hair, but some do.

    Then we get to enjoy the leaves changing colour. The crisp, chilled air. Going for a walk with a hot chocolate. Yes, you can enjoy those in all seasons, but there is something special about enjoying them in the fall. Cozy outfits. I know I already said that, but I'm very excited for them. With fall, snuggling is also easier because no one is overheating. Plus, since hubby lost all the weight, he now wears hoodies and sweaters more often because he gets cold. The first winter after his weight loss, he looked at me and said, 'Now I understand why you always have a sweater with you.' I live in sweaters. You will seldom see me without a sweater or some sort of extra layer. I may not be wearing it in that particular moment, but I have it with me. Anyway, with him wearing sweaters more often, I can now enjoy 'hoodie hugs' more often. There is nothing cozier than receiving a bear hug while you are both wearing sweaters. He also wears long-sleeve shirts in the fall and winter, and I think they look really good on him. The cooler weather is also convenient because it means that my head won't sweat while I wear my silk bandanas. Plus, I find the one downside to wearing fashion scarves is that my hair gets all messed up, but now that it's always up and usually under a silk bandana, no more rat's nest at the back of my neck.

    Winter is also exciting. Yes, it's cold, the days are shorter, and the snow makes driving challenging at times. But there is still lots to do. One of my favourite things is ice skating. Preferably outdoors on a lake so Blessing can run alongside me. One winter we were up north visiting my parents. We went skating on the lake one day. Blessing thought it was great fun running alongside me and would bark whenever I stopped for a minute. She isn't traditionally a vocal dog, so it was funny. Winter is also fun for downhill skiing and snowboarding. Around Christmas time, it's fun to get a hot chocolate from Tim Hortons and go drive around and look at Christmas lights. Blessing also enjoys jumping through the snow like a rabbit and loves catching snowballs.

    You see, every season has its beauty. They all have their own special features that we get to enjoy. We may not like every season; we may even have a favourite, but they all have beauty in their own ways. Just like in life, not every season is full of joy and peace. Some are hard, with difficult lessons, but there is beauty in every season. Sometimes we just have to look for it. For example, my hubby has been in a sling since the beginning of summer. He fell off his bike and broke his collarbone. It has been a difficult season for us in many ways, but God has also used this season to grow and stretch us. Both individually and as a couple. And by the grace of God, we are relationally stronger than we ever have been. And for that, we are thankful. Could do without that darn sling, though. ;)

    So, instead of complaining about the heat of summer, or the snow in winter, let's simply enjoy every season for what it offers. Because there is beauty in every season.

I pray this encourages and blesses you today, friend.

God Bless

~Hannah

Overcoming Comparison Part 2.

    Day three. Did God really say?

    Romans 4:19-22. ¹⁹ And not being weak in faith, he did not consider his own body, already dead (since he was about a hundred years old), and the deadness of Sarah’s womb. ²⁰ He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, ²¹ and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform. ²² And therefore “it was accounted to him for righteousness.” NKJV
    Comparison takes our eyes off what God has given us and turns our eyes onto what was never meant for us. When we start looking at someone else's life, we forget what God is doing in our life. Comparison shows the final work in someone else's life while looking at the incomplete work in your life. It's a joy and peace stealer, which shouldn't be a surprise because that's what the enemy's all about. John 10:10 (NKJV: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”

    In the Romans passage, Abraham chose to look to God and the promises he had given him, and not to his present circumstances that didn't align with God's plan. Both he and Sarah were old and, on a human level, unable to have a child of their own. But then, God came and told them they would have a child of their own and that he would be a father to many nations. The enemy's one and only tactic is to get you to question if God really said what he said. We already have everything we need in the season we are in. Whether it looks like it or not from the human perspective. And if we know that in his timing and by his will, he will give us the desires of our heart. Then why do we need to compare our life to the other guy? Simply put, we don't. But that’s easier said than done sometimes.

    Day four. The Carrier of the Blessing
    Genesis 13:9-11. NJKV. ⁹ Is not the whole land before you? Please separate from me. If you take the left, then I will go to the right; or, if you go to the right, then I will go to the left.” ¹⁰ And Lot lifted his eyes and saw all the plain of Jordan, that it was well watered everywhere (before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah) like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt as you go toward Zoar. ¹¹ Then Lot chose for himself all the plain of Jordan, and Lot journeyed east. And they separated from each other.
Ephesians 2:10 NKJV. ^“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

    Abraham lovingly gave Lot the first choice of land when they parted ways. I look at it like Abraham was putting Lot first. The author of the study suggests that it's because Abraham knew that God was with him and that the blessing was on him wherever he went because he was the carrier of the blessing. I don't fully understand that yet, but the author suggests that because we are children of God, we carry the blessing wherever we go. This is the freedom that breaks the power of comparison.
When you know God's hand is on your life, there is no need for comparison. You were not built to do what the other guy can do. You were built to do what God has designed you to do.

    Day five. Am I in the will of God?
    Proverbs 3:5 - 6 NKJV. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; ⁶ In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall ^[a^]direct your paths.”
Am I in the will of God? A simple, and yet profound and important question. As the author says, and I agree, it cuts through the noise of comparison. Today is the final devotional. Beautifully closes out this Bible study. The author suggests that your current circumstances may not look like you had hoped, but someday they might. My circumstances don't look exactly like I would like them to right now either. But that's okay because I know God's got it. They also encouraged us readers to ask ourselves whether we are obeying God right now. Did you do the last thing He told you to do? And are you doing what He's currently telling you to do? Then you were on the right track. I found this to be very encouraging as I thought about my life. Because even though I wish a few things were different, I'm in the Father's will. God has been saying no to a dream of mine. I don't believe it's a hard no. I believe it's a not yet. The other day I prayed about it again, and he said no again. But then I asked why, and he explained. Not that he needs to explain it. Of course He's God. He is the creator of the heavens and the earth. He doesn’t owe us any explanation. But he did, and it gave me peace and hope because I believe that one day it will be a yes.

    God has used this study to break off the chains of comparison, and I'm so thankful for it. That being said, the enemy did sneak in today and get me to start comparing myself again to somebody. But I'm not going to let myself be defeated by it. I'm going to pray and ask the Lord what I should do with that, whether I should be using that person as motivation or if I should walk away from it and put it at the foot of the cross.
But it's okay if you get tripped up. That's where his grace and mercy come in. And now it's time to enjoy the weekend and not worry about the rest of the world. God bless, friend.

    I pray this blesses, encourages, and challenges, you in whatever way you need today, friend.

God Bless

~Hannah

Overcoming Comparison Part 1.

    Two of the things I struggle with the most in my life are my self-worth/value and comparison. The rest of the things I struggle with all stem from those two. Right now I'm working on a Bible study on comparison. The biggest things I compare myself against with other is my fitness level, diet and how much they can do all at once. Ex. Work full-time, run a house, full-time student, raise kids, etc. How many things can they juggle well in any given season? And then there's me. I struggle with working full-time, running a home, spending time with my family and enjoying my hobbies.

    I'm working through a Bible study on the topic of comparison. One of the things I have come to learn/realize is that comparison is a waste of time and energy. I was having a hard time with the topic last Saturday. It took me down for a little while

    After working through it, I was at my sewing machine finishing up my latest dress project. I realized right then and there that comparison is a waste of time. Because instead of getting upset and then getting into an argument with hubby. I could have simply continued on with the task I was doing and then headed to my sewing machine early and finished the project sooner. But instead of enjoying my life and all the things that God has given me and I get to do, I was wasting time comparing my life to someone else's life who didn't know and likely doesn't care because they are enjoying their life. I was chatting to a coworker about my struggles with comparison and sharing a few of the above areas in which I compare myself to others. Interestingly enough, I don't care about wage differences. If you make more money than I do, I'm happy for you. There are a few other topics that I don't feel the need to compare with others, but the wage difference was an interesting realization. We had been discussing wages and such, and it occurred to me that I don’t care about that difference. There are other areas, of course, that I do not compare myself against other people with either. Another area I don’t compare myself with others is clothing choices. I don’t care what you wear. The immodest fashions of today drive me bonkers, but I don’t feel bad about how I dress. Anyways, there are some areas that I do compare myself with others and some I do not.

    Day 1. A heart at peace
    'A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones. ' Proverbs 14:30 NKJV
The author asked how old you were when you first started comparing yourself to others. As I thought back, I realized that like many of us, I have been comparing myself to others my whole life. Not always in a bad light mind you, but always comparing myself to others. But it didn't start bothering me until I was in my teen years. The verse used for today's devo talks about being at peace with yourself. It was both convicting and encouraging, and like every other word found in Scripture, correct. If I had been at peace with myself that morning and many other times, I would not have lost out on enjoying any of my day. I'm also working on practicing gratitude. I’m trying to thank God more often for everything and working on changing my mindset/perspective.

    Day 2. You don't know their fertilizer.
    "But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each of you shall bear his own load. Galatians 6:4-5 NKJV
The author reminds us of the downfall and the trap that social media can be. We see people's nice posts. Their highlight reel, and unconsciously start comparing our selves to them. Now, it would be one thing if we were comparing their highlight reel to our highlight reel, but we aren't. We are comparing their spotless kitchen to the pile of dishes in our sink. The problem with this is that we are comparing apples to oranges. Two different things. We also don't know the work that went into getting that post. That vacation picture that you saw, is it on credit or paid in full? Or did the couple have a fight 30 min before the picture was taken? Hopefully not. Point is, though, we don't know what work they had to put in order to get that picture. Personally, I have become very intentional about what I post on social media. Am I posting to brag about my latest sewing project or to help encourage someone along their journey? Admittedly, a little of both sometimes.

    The author also reminds us of the work that likely went into that post. Do you want to put in all the work that person put into getting that post? Maybe you do, in which case, use them as motivation to help you get where you want to go. But, more likely, you don't. Another good question. Did that person get there on their own strength, or did God bless them? As the author put it, 'You could be in your own lane, faithfully obeying, comparing yourself to someone who is not even in the will of God. That is a dangerous metric to live by." This statement hit home in all the right places. They also worded it this way: 'Comparison is so dangerous, you could end up comparing where God has you to where the devil has them.' Also helpful.

    I am part way through this study, and already God has healed so much of my heart. I pray that it heals your heart before you finish reading it too.

    There are a few other reflection questions for day two.
1. Think about someone you've recently compared yourself to. What do you actually know about their story? The two people I was comparing myself to that morning. I know some of their story, but much of it I do not. I do know that they have both seen hard times, though. I can also imagine the one person encouraging me not to compare myself to them.

2. Are you willing to go through the process that it took them to obtain the things that they have that you want? I don’t have the time or energy to obtain the things that they have. One of them is a major athlete. Yes, I would like to be fitter and work out more, but I have no desire to be at their level. The other one has a very high level of education. I would love to finish my bachelor’s degree, but I don’t care to go further than that. As I do these reflection questions myself, I realize just how silly it is to compare myself to these people. Hubby and I were discussing my struggles with comparison the other day, and he was reminding me that part, if not the whole root cause of it, is that I don’t know who I am or like who I am. He has a point. Something else I’m working on.

3. Are they in God's will? Are you comparing yourself to someone else's detour? I do not know where these two people stand with the Lord. I know that one of them was raised to know the Lord, but I do not know where they stand now, and I don’t know the other person’s faith background. I do know that I am in the will of God though.

I pray this blesses, encourages, and challenges you in whatever way you need today, friend.

God Bless

~Hannah

I Need God's Grace and Mercy Every Day.

    Two weeks ago we were headed to my brother's wedding. Along the way, I had to apologize to hubby for something. I don't remember what for, and it doesn't matter. Anyways, I apologized, and he forgave me. I sat quietly for a few minutes and thought about God's grace and mercy and how I really do need them every day. The Holy Spirit then reminded me that's why His grace and mercy are new every morning. In my self righteousness, I thought that I didn't need His grace and mercy everyday. That I needed it most days. A few days a week, but not every day. In my self righteousness I thought that if you needed it everyday then you were definitely struggling with sin of some sort. I tried to tell myself that I didn't need it everyday, that I could handle life on my own most of the time or at least some of the time. I see now that I was wrong.

    Holy Spirit then reminded me that this is why His grace and mercies are new every morning. Because He knows that when we are honest with ourselves and with Him, we do in fact need it every day. It was a beautiful moment of conviction and correction.

    I shared this with hubby a few minutes later, and he agreed that not only do we need it every day, but every minute of every day.

    I'm working on admitting that to myself and to you, friend/reader. That I'm a sinner saved by grace who needs a new dosage of grace and mercy everyday.

Lamentations 3:22-23 through the LORD's mercies we are not consumed, Because His Compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness. NKJV. I also thought that there was a verse literally saying, “His grace and mercies are new every morning.” Turns out this is that verse is the verse. It is also an important reminder to know the Word of God and not just assume that you know it.

Anyways, we all need God’s fresh grace and mercy every morning.

God Bless

~Hannah

Finding Balance In Our Closet.

    Track pants have their place too. Hear me out, ladies. I am all for getting dressed up and being out together for myself and for hubby. It also doesn't hurt that 90% of my wardrobe is 'Sunday Best,' and I haven't worn pants publicly in 4 years. I will also be one of the first people to encourage you to get dressed up for your hubby, but I'm also coming to the conclusion that there is a happy medium as well. Track pants/ lounge wear have their place.

    What I mean by all this is that there have been plenty of times when I deliberately put on an outfit for hubby's attention, and times when I wear it just for myself. There are also times when we are relaxing, and I'm in my PJs. There have been times when we are sitting down to watch a movie, and I'm in a nice dress or skirt, and hubby will suggest that I put on pj's so that I can be more comfortable. I lovingly tell him that I am comfy. And we move on. There are also times when we sit down for a movie, and I automatically put on pj's.

    One evening a few weeks ago, I was washing off my makeup before winding down for a movie on a Saturday night. I felt bad because I was taking off my makeup and that he couldn't enjoy it anymore. He reminded me that he had been enjoying it all day and, of course, that I don't need makeup to be beautiful.

    He also regularly tells me that I look sexy in my PJs. I usually give him the 'you have two heads' look. His explanation is that by wearing my PJs, and so on, around him, it says that I am comfortable around him. I would hope after 11 years of marriage I would be comfortable around him. Either way, it's cute and sweet. He isn’t wrong, though; how you dress says a lot about yourself, and your relationship to those around you, whether you are at home or out in public.

    By no means am I saying to change into your PJs the second you get home. I'm just saying we don't have to be put together all the time either. I’ve also heard it suggested that you should be put together at all times at home, and even if you are cooking and cleaning that day that you can still put on a “house” dress that may be older, that you no longer wish to wear publicly, but is still comfortable and you can move about freely while you do your tasks. This agument also has it’s place, but I think we need more of a balanced approach.

    I have heard it suggested that some women dress up for work and then once they are home, change into sweats. Meaning that they give the world outside of their home their best but then aren't putting in any effort into how they look at home. Again, I think it's more about balance and not shaming anyone. Maybe some days you are more put together than other days. I work in a factory and put little effort into my appearance for work. Yes, I do wear skirts to work, but they are no longer a part of my “Sunday Best” wardrobe. They are stained from paint and other things at work. Some evenings I put myself together more than others. Then on the weekends I am 'Sunday Best' for most of the weekend. Recently, hubby has joined Blessing and me for our daily walk; we head out the door a few minutes after I get home. I don’t bother getting changed because I am sweaty and know that I will sweat on the walk as well, so I shower after our walk. One day last week I didn’t sweat very much, so I told hubby I would take a quick “sponge” bath and get a little cleaned up and then change into a nicer outfit for our walk. I knew it wasn’t really a hot day, so I figured the chances of needing another shower after the walk were slimmer. So I quickly got cleaned up, changed into a nicer skirt outfit, came to the living room, and jokingly, with a big smile on my face, said to hubby, “Okay, I’m pretty now.” he smiled and said to me, “You are always pretty.” I know that I am pretty without a nice outfit on, but the outfit did make me feel better.

    So, let's find the happy medium between Sunday Best and never getting out of your sweats. I also know that getting dressed up and putting yourself together looks different for every woman. Not every woman is the pink skirt girly girl that I am. God created us all different on purpose. For some, it is a nice pair of jeans and a pretty top, and that is also beautiful. And some women don’t wear makeup at all or wear minimal makeup, and again, that too is beautiful.

    So ladies, let's aim for balance. Relaxed outfits when the moment calls for it, and dressier outfits when those moments arise as well. That being said, dresses can be really comfy. I have a handful of sundresses and skirts that I can easily relax in, and with summer coming to a close and fall heading our way, I am so excited for sweater dresses, tights and scarves.

    Again, not here to condemn or anything else. I’m just hearing a lot of talk on both sides of “the issue” and wanted to balance them out.

I pray this blesses, teaches, encourages, and lovingly challenges you in whatever way you need today.

Have a blessed Sunday, friend.

~Hannah